When to buy her flowers?
We all have a friend who never wants to hang out, but only calls when he wants something? Annoying, right? Well, it’s the same idea when it comes to giving a girl flowers. You can’t just give her flowers when you want something or when times get tough.
Early on, you need to set a precedent, by giving her flowers when things are good. This creates an association: “Flowers = Happy Times”. Then, when you make her mad or get in a fight, you can buy her flowers to recall those happy times. I call it the Happy Times Principle.
Here are some Happy Times to give flowers:
To Say “I’m Sorry”. Guys, we all know this works, but it works best when following the Happy Times Principle. Keep reading…
Just Because. This is the most important part of the Happy Times Principle. You must — absolutely must — give her flowers at random occasions “just because,” two to four times a year.
To make it really seem random, try to time it at least a week or two after any major events or big arguments. This keeps her on her toes, makes you seem slightly dangerous and unpredictable, and helps maintain the illusion that you both live in a Romantic Happy-Times Fantasy Bubble.
Third Date. Got a new gal, and want to show her you’re a real gentleman?
Pick her up at eight, and surprise her with a nice bouquet. It may seem corny, but she will love it. I’m going to repeat that. No matter how corny you think this is, she will love it. This works on any date, not just the third. However, flowers on the first date may be a bit too old fashioned, and flowers on the first OR second dates may create an unrealistic expectation that you are some kind of superhuman “perfect guy”. Which you are not. So, no flowers before the third date. Birthday. Optional. There’s always cake. Anniversary. Obvious, but flowers are a great way to let her know you care about your anniversary — and what better way to associate flowers with Happy Times?
Come to www.preciouspetals.ie for a full-service where you can get advice, see the flowers before you buy, and get the bouquet arranged — by someone who will do a much better job than you can.
Ok, I get it, but what kind of flowers should I get her?
Roses are classic, of course. (Red means “I love you”; white means “It didn’t mean anything, let’s just be friends.”; pink is somewhere in between red and white — both in color and in meaning.) But giving her roses is like writing her a poem that starts out “Roses are red, violets are blue…” Sweet, but obvious. Yes, roses are great, but you — discerning reader that you are — didn’t come here to get advice about roses.
If you really want to impress your gal, give her something unique: lilies with fern leaves, a mixed bouquet, wildflowers, etc. Here’s the thing: try something … and notice what she likes. If she looks at them and puts them in the window, get her big bright colorful flowers. If the first thing she does is stick her nose in them, get her flowers that smell good.
Most flower shops carry a mixed wildflower bouquet. Very romantic. Stargazer lilies are great too, for one particular reason: they smell amazing. (For unscented, try Asiatic lilies.) Buy her stargazer lilies only when you are going to where she lives, and she won’t have to carry them anywhere. Why? Because the stamens leave a bright yellow stain on everything they touch.
Still, they are worth it because they smell amazing, when you see the stamen or pollen buds just pick them out as the petals begin to open, this removes the pollen and the risk of staining you or the petals.
Want something that grows? Try potted tulips or orchids. Tulips are easier to care for — not super romantic, but a great gift nonetheless. Orchids are magnificent, but (like so many magnificent things) they can be somewhat high-maintenance.
Now that you have an idea of what to get her, let’s look into the how of things.
The Bouquet. The classic behind-the-back surprise bouquet of flowers works like a charm. When you get a bouquet of flowers, it usually comes with a little aqua pack.
Take a moment to make them last:
- Get a vase, and put some water in it. You don’t need too much, maybe 1/4 full, or enough to cover all the stems. If the flowers came with a packet of flower food, drop some of it in there. If not, crush a Vitamin C tablet and drop it in there.
- With a sharp knife or scissors, cut the stems at an angle — just trim them 1/4 inch or so, enough to make a fresh cut. The angle makes more surface area for the stems to soak up water. An old cut heals quickly — even just a few minutes old — making it harder for your flowers to drink. So, cut them at an angle, and…
- Immediately put the fresh-cut flowers into the vase.
- If the outer petals on the flowers look tough or wilted slightly, remove these. They are most likely what are called Guard Petals and are actually not old or damaged flowers, this is just mother nature, guard petals protect the rest of the flower. Removing these will freshen up the bouquet, and allow the flower to open up more, leaving them on however will make the flowers bloom more naturally, add strength and length to their life.
When she says “oh, another bouquet of flowers,” change it up. She can say this with her eyes, even if she doesn’t say anything out loud.
Here are some ideas:
The Office Delivery. Send flowers to her work. Super romantic, this will earn you a huge return of Happy Times points — both with her, and with her co-workers, who will want you (or someone very much like you) as their boyfriend too. You could take this as far as you like, from just stopping by on her lunch break or Precious Petals Florists Dublin will deliver for you, just use common sense and don’t get her fired.
Remember our florists deliver throughout Dublin, so if you need flowers Sent to Dublin 1, Dublin 2, Dublin 18, Dublin 13, Dublin 4, Skerries, Swords, Killiney, Dalkey, Blackrock, Tallaght, Lucan, Blanchardstown, Portobello, Marino or anywhere in between Precious Petals Flower Delivery Service will take care of it same day for you, just order before 1pm so we have the time to actually make the flowers and deliver them before she goes home!
The Setup. Live together?
Get flowers, arrange them in a vase, and put them somewhere where she might not notice them right away. When she does………
The Run. Just hanging out tonight? Even if it’s not a date, you can still exercise the Happy Times Principle. Make a quick call to www.preciouspetals.ie on 018101615 on any flimsy excuse — dinner, beer, dry cleaning — and while you’re out, organise some flowers!
Petals. This one is great if you have roses that are past their prime. Before they wilt or dry out, take off all the petals and scatter them around the bedroom. To complete the romantic picture, light some candles and put on some music. Set aside two petals and put them in a couple glasses of wine or champagne. Yes, roses are edible, and even said to be aphrodisiac.
One quick note about scattering rose petals. Friction + red rose petals + white carpets = trouble with your damage deposit. Use common sense if you have a really expensive white carpet. Also, see my article about how to get back your damage deposit.
The main thing is to remember the Happy Times Principle. Buy flowers for during good times, buy them occasionally at random to keep her on her toes, and then when things go wrong, your flowers can help make them right again.